How To Invade Space and Solve Chronic Clutter Problems in Under 10 minutes

  I have been binge reading Gretchen Rubin’s books over the last few weeks. I started with The Happiness Project which I thought was interesting and it led me to Better Than Before. I am currently on to Happier at Home but not completed yet. Better than Before gave me a whole new insight into who I am as a person and how I form habits or why sometimes I declare something and then never act upon it. The Theory of Broken Windows In Better Than Before, I also read an interesting concept. It is the concept of “broken windows.” “Broken windows” is a theory of crime prevention in the early 1980’s where social scientists who observed that when community tolerates petty crimes like broken windows and graffiti, etc, people are more likely to commit serious crime. Gretchen draws a parallel between this concept and her favorite theory of fixing outer order to bring inner calm. She equalizes “broken windows” to a personal setback or disorder. When I thought about this, my mind immediately went to how clutter (my broken window for the longest time I have ever known) started affecting me. For people who know me (my family and close friends) this might definitely seem shocking. I am the most clutter-blind person my family has ever seen or known. Or I used to be is a better phrase. I never ever was bothered ever by clutter until I had children. And then it got to me so much that I started creating systems everywhere to fix my clutter issue. I still have a few broken windows that I need to fix but my god; my closet has been in shape for the past year and a half. The toys are in place 5 out of 7 days. My clothes are folded weekly. I can find my things in places where I kept them. But there is a slight unnoticeable thing that happened that changed the game. How did I recognize my broken window that changed my life completely as I knew it? This is where I introduce my Space Invasion theory. The Theory of Space Invasion I feel people are always clutter blind to their own issues but the moment someone else invades their space in form or function, they start noticing clutter more. My husband would nag me a lot to fix my closet, put clothes in their place, etc. and we would fight. That did not change me a bit. That made me unhappy about everything. But it was not until this one day when out of nowhere (or maybe he thought it through, I have never asked) my husband gave up on nagging me and started putting his clothes out of the basket instead. It immediately blew my mind. How could a person throw clothes on the floor like that? How am I supposed to walk on the floor? That moment, just that moment, changed my whole life as I know it. I recognized my broken …

How To Keep Calm And Survive Terrible Twos?

I have two boys. 5 and two years old. I am surviving terrible twos, and I have to admit that “twos” are the hardest years so far. I love the four-year-old age. They bring their amazing questions and perspective to life and make the world so much entertaining.  But handling a two-year-old? It is the most dreadful part of motherhood I think. Especially if you are a first-time mother who is in love with her baby and then reality suddenly sets in, and you are like,”What monster did I give birth to????” I have a friend who has a third baby boy(about six months old) and she keeps looking at him and saying,” Oh my God, you are going to be a two-year-old one day!” I find it amusing when she says that but that is how every mother feels. I love to take my kids outdoors and to the community parks. But in scorching weather here in Las Vegas, it is impossible to take them to parks. So we have indoor playgrounds. I feel sorry they have been home all day, and I should be doing something to keep them entertained, so I take them to these playgrounds. More often than not my two-year-old has played for 10 minutes and then asked for a snack that he is not allowed to take on any of the slides or structures. It is so hard for him to handle this rule. He wants to eat and run around like at parks. At indoor playgrounds, he has to choose between a snack and playtime. He cannot wrap his head around it. I have stopped going to indoor playgrounds unless there is a party invitation. There was a time when he kept throwing himself down on the ground crying at an indoor place. I was trying to tell him in vain that he has to choose between snack or the playground and on the side was giving the weirdest “I am trying people” smiles to individuals who were staring at me( a  thing I don’t understand about parents and the indoor playground owners. Don’t they go through the same thing? Do they expect to be in a spa environment when it is an indoor playground full of kids which may have some two-year-olds to stare like that?) There have been couple times now that I have signed up for mommy and me classes with him like cooking with children, music and movement class and hip hop class. More often than not, he has not wanted to be in the class environment on the first day. My older kid when he was two years old handled this so much better. But he would keep holding my pants and not move without me. It took him a while to get adjusted. My younger kid doesn’t care to hold me or anything. He just either keeps running in circles or looks for food in my purse or wants to get the hell out of there. In his defense, he does try. …

Self Care Challenge Day – 4

Moms, Today is the time to think about why you are interested in self-care. Are you following this challenge because it is an “in” thing to do? Or is there more substance behind your interest? A year ago, I was nervous to join a gym. I was 25 lbs heavier. I was unhappy, overworked. I would skip breakfasts, eat take-outs, stay awake working all night. But this all changed. My priorities took 180 degree turn. All because of asking myself questions. I want to help you just like how I helped myself. I understand how being a mother takes a toll on the woman inside. And now I do understand that there is a better way to handle this overwhelm. For me to be able to help you, you must help yourself. And for this, I hope you sincerely join me in today’s challenge and give me your feedback in the comments below. Today’s Challenge : Contemplate your reason behind your interest in self-care. This reason will lead you to an interest in a daily routine. Questions : What do you think self-care means? Why do you want to make it your priority? What is stopping you from following a routine? I am waiting for your answers….

Self-Care Challenge – Day 3

  Moms, you wake up at 4 am and work endlessly. Your brain does not switch off even when you lie down on your bed while everyone else is asleep at night. You have things to take care of, places to reach. You are NON-STOP. Today’s Challenge : Pause. Take a break. Sit down. Do not hurry for anything or if at all possible. “Do NOTHING” Question : What goes on in your mind when you decide to pause? Please let me know in comments.  

Self-Care Challenge – Day 2

  How many times do we go from past to future in our lives as moms? Always thinking about tomorrow and wondering if life will get any easier and thinking about the easy life we had before kids gets us nowhere other than the land of stress. Today we bring ourselves to the present moment with this simple exercise that I am sure you will love.   Today’s Challenge : Savor a piece of chocolate (and if you are one of those rare cases who does not like chocolate, insert any other piece of fruit or food choice of your liking. Savoring a chocolate or a piece of fruit or any food you like really brings all senses together. Before you put a piece of chocolate in your mouth admire it’s existence, inhale the fragrance. Put the chocolate in your mouth, close your eyes and experience the texture, enjoy the taste. Eat it slowly. This savoring moment brings you in the present moment. Question: What were your thoughts about this exercise?  Please let me know in the comment below.